We are all in recovery to recover the person we are intended to be. -- Russell Brand
In my work as a life coach/life alchemist, I often work with people who are experiencing shame. That awful mix of regret and self-hate. That alienating feeling that grips our insides and rushes to fill the gap between what we’ve done and what we think we should have done. Sins of omission and commission.
Our behavior doesn’t meet the standard that we, or others, have established for ourselves, and we pass judgment. We hate ourselves for what we did.
The deed we judge ourselves for is hidden, secret, known only to us, or a select few. That’s the thing about shame – it feeds on secrecy. And it reinforces secrecy – we don’t reveal the secret because the revelation, the knowledge, that we share with others would invite shame.
Shame is different from guilt. Guilt is the feeling that a particular thing I did was bad. Shame is the feeling that I AM BAD because of that thing I did. Shame is the judgment we pass upon ourselves, perhaps as a preemptive strike to keep others from judging us first. We tell ourselves that if they really knew us, they would reject us. And so we keep that knowledge from them.
The tragedy is that the judgment and the shame set us apart and prevent us from enjoying meaningful relationships with others. If I can’t share who I really am, I end up not sharing anything of substance. We relate on a surface level only. Which leads to regret and loss.
Shame can be debilitating. It changes us physically, emotionally, mentally. And because it’s incredibly complex, there are no simple solutions.
It shows up in many ways and affects everything in life. And for those who have shame, the experience of working with a coach/mentor can be very harming. Further, in many instances, the coach/mentor blames the person for not accomplishing what was intended. Which can reinforce the shame that the person is feeling.
So as you grant yourself grace to address those issues of shame, choose the right person to guide you on the journey – coach, counselor, other practitioner. Learn to have compassion for yourself and what you experienced. Just as you would have compassion for another who experienced the same thing.
Reclaim and recover your sense of worth.
Befriend yourself.
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